Daters don’t come in a one-size-fits-all category. You’ll encounter people from diverse backgrounds, with each person having unique stories to tell.
Some of the folks you may bump into are divorced women.
Much like singles, divorced women can’t be pegged into one category because they aren’t a monolith. One may just be scratching her dating itch and looking for some companionship. Another may be looking for true love the second (or third, depending on her count) time around after her painful split.
Do you happen to be attracted to one at the very moment? If so, don’t press the panic button just yet! Dating divorced women isn’t that far off from dating unmarried ones. There may be some key differences (which are worth another post), but the fundamentals remain the same.
If you need further convincing, these should help you consider changing your mind:
There’s Nothing Wrong with Her Baggage
We’re aware of how painful divorces are, yes? Even some couples who’ve amicably parted ways still feel the sting of splitting up.
If amicable divorces hurt, ugly divorces are ten times more miserable. Women who have gone through the latter, unfortunately, may have experienced the world crashing down — a feeling you may not understand. You haven’t been in a divorcee’s shoes, so there may be some things you can’t comprehend yet unless you’ve experienced them yourself.
Does that feeling suck? Yes. Should that discourage you? No. Baggage is a lot to handle, but it shouldn’t make you end things before they even begin.
They Won’t Play Games
(*cue the Backstreet Boys’ “Quit Playing Games (With My Heart)*)
Unless you’re a sadistic person or a manipulative dater, no one wants to screw anyone over! The last thing we all need is a person taking advantage of our feelings. The last two years have done more than enough damage, and frankly, none of us can take any more painful curveballs for the time being.
While everyone can relate to heartbreak, divorced women have felt it at an extra painful level. And because of that, they know better than to let their next partner go through that experience. While there’s no guarantee that you’ll end up together for the rest of your lives, one thing’s for sure: they won’t be out to break your heart.
They Understand Boundaries
Personal boundaries exist for a reason, people! They make relationships (and, by extension, lives) healthier. How?
- They encourage self-care.
- Stress is diminished.
- Self-esteem and self-identity get a boost.
- Burnouts are avoided.
- Independence grows.
Because of their experiences, divorced women are more aware of their wants and needs. She won’t flip out if you say you’ve got your boundaries.
Want Personal Space? No Problem
Personal space is just as important as boundaries. Life’s unpredictability can have us juggling many things at once, which can get overwhelming. And if you can’t take an occasional breather, you will break. And trust me — it’ll be ugly.
Divorced women have a ton on their plates, and you’re probably just a tiny part of that. They need some space to sort those things out to make their lives a little less stressful. If you’re quite the busybody yourself, you’ll be blessed to have a woman who understands your circumstances.
Dating divorced women may not be for everyone, but they’re pretty good matches. Their status doesn’t and shouldn’t define them as people. Why not give them a shot before making your judgment?