Love Formula: How Elderly Couples Stay in Love

Florence Williamson
3 min readSep 15, 2022

What do old couples have that we don’t?

Why do they stay happy and strong despite years of backbreaking challenges?

Is there some secret formula?

How can we be more like them?

You have probably asked yourself these questions whenever you see elderly couples living the time of their lives. You might even get envious and sad because you think that you will not experience the same level of love as they do.

Like any other relationship, the journey of these couples wasn’t easy. They have dealt with countless fights and disagreements, but in the end, they remained strong.

So, you might ask, how do they stay in love?

Well, here’s how.

They Compromise

Happy couples last because they argue. In fact, some of them always fight but the difference is that they know how to fight fairly. Simply put, they know the value of compromise.

In a mature relationship, true power doesn’t come from winning against your partner, it comes from knowing how to communicate and resolve conflicts without demeaning the other party.

Yes, elderly couples fight, but they eventually learn to accept and respect their differences.

They Deal With the Challenges of Aging

Mature couples know that vulnerability comes with age. They will not be as strong and as active as they once were, so they take care and be there for their partners no matter what.

On the other hand, aging includes wrinkles and sagging muscles. But these couples stay because looks don’t matter to them. They look at the values and character that their partners have rather than admiring their physical appearances because as they say, beauty will fade, but the character will stay.

They Always Find Time to Make New Memories

These couples value quality time and are committed to making new memories. Despite knowing each other like the back of their hands, they still find ways to keep their relationship fun and interesting.

For instance, they go on picnic dates, ride a boat, or read a book together. For them, as long as they create special moments, the flame will always be alive.

So, if you want to be the couple you envy, don’t be complacent with your partner. There are countless enjoyable activities you can do together. All you have to do is go above and beyond the bare minimum to stay connected.

They Stay Affectionate

Being affectionate isn’t shown only at the start of a relationship. You have to consistently show it to let your partner feel loved and cared for.

Couples who have gone through the highs and lows know the value of staying affectionate. So, they do things that show their fondness for each other, including holding hands, hugging, cuddling, and kissing, to name a few.

The Secret Formula

Want to know these couples’ secrets? It’s simple. They choose each other every day. They can’t compromise or be affectionate to each other if they’re not committed. That said, if you want to be like them, you have to do what it takes to make the relationship work.