Statements That Can Ruin Your Relationship with Your Girlfriend

Florence Williamson
3 min readAug 2, 2022

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Have you heard the metaphor words cut deeper than knives?

I first heard it from my parents. Being young at the time, I didn’t know what it meant, so I asked them. According to them, words can create deeper pain that takes longer to heal than a physical wound made by a knife.

But it was only when I started getting into relationships that I understood what that really meant.

It’s true. Words are damaging. Hurtful words can literally break relationships.

Once you say something hurtful to a woman, you can never take it back. You can apologize to her, but she’ll remember everything — what you said and how you said it.

That said, here are statements that you should avoid at all costs:

“What are you wearing?!”

Note: It isn’t just what you say, but how you say it. Asking a woman “What are you wearing?” in a tone of confusion and disdain is a big no-no.

Women love to impress the men we like. We want to be the most beautiful woman in the world in your eyes.

So, when your girlfriend is confidently showing her dress, don’t ask her why she’s dressed like that or what kind of clothes she is wearing, especially with an equally snarky tone of voice. It’s disheartening to hear that.

Instead, focus on giving her compliments. It may look narcissistic, but a little compliment goes a long way in showing her that you care and you appreciate her efforts.

“My ex used to…”

This phrase seems harmless at first glance, but this tends to upset a lot of women.

A lot of men say this to compare their current girlfriend to their ex. They say things such as “My ex used to cook it like this” or “My ex liked to do it like that.”

In general, you shouldn’t compare your partner with anyone. Don’t say the phrase above as a form of a joke or a way of flirting. No woman wants to be compared with another woman. Take note of that.

“You’re overreacting.”

This is the worst thing that you can say to your girlfriend especially when you are in an argument.

Here’s the deal. There’s nothing wrong with that sentence. However, it all comes down to your intentions.

Are you being condescending? Are you undermining her emotions? Did you say it to tease her about how she reacts to the situation?

Men tend to say “You’re overreacting” when we really aren’t. So you need to be careful.

As a general rule, don’t ever say this to your girlfriend when she is in a bad mood.

“Are you on your period?”

This is another statement that you should not say to your partner, even as a joke.

Periods, in general, are tough. Period cramps hurt a lot, and they cause a lot of women to be very cranky.

Sure, women do easily get angry during their period but don’t use her period as a go-to comparison whenever she’s being moody.

“You are an idiot.”

Yeah, no insults, please.

No matter how heated your argument gets, don’t ever get to the point where you start calling your girlfriend fat, stupid, or ugly.

Compared to the previous statements, insults that target her self-confidence are what you should avoid saying the most.

Avoid These Statements at All Costs

Here’s the deal. Saying hurtful things once is forgivable. Sometimes, you slip and say something by mistake.

But once you start saying them over and over, you are treading dangerous territory.

Think about your girlfriend’s feelings. Remember, your words cut deeper than a knife.

Your girlfriend will always remember what you said and how you said it. She may forget about the time and place, but she’ll always remember how you made her feel.

In a relationship, we should all strive to do better because we love our partner. If anything, start by doing better with your words. That alone will make such a huge difference in your relationship.

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Florence Williamson