The 5 Best Pieces of Breakup Advice You Will Ever Need

Florence Williamson
3 min readAug 3, 2022

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Most people deal with breakups at some point in their lives.

No matter how long the relationship is, no one can anticipate their partners suddenly asking for a breakup. This happens for many reasons like arguments about money, responsibilities, and jealousy. Or, they simply fell out of love.

Regardless of the reason, one thing is certain — No one knows what to actually do once their partner breaks up with them.

You may not know how to react. You may think that they’re being absurd for breaking up with you.

But once they leave your life completely, the reality of it will hit you: the relationship has ended. You should move on.

But dealing with breakups is not easy. How do you deal with it the right way?

To help you, here are five pieces of advice on how to deal with your heartbreak:

1. Let go of the need for closure

Unfortunately, there are relationships that end with no closure.

Your partner just left you out of the blue. They leave no traces behind, no reason or explanation why they left. They even blocked you on social media.

You naturally need closure, something to make sense of it all.

Why did they leave all of a sudden? Was it because of something you did? Was there something wrong between you that you didn’t notice?

It’s difficult to be in this situation. But here’s the deal: you can move on without closure.

But that’s up to you to accept that. You may strongly believe that you’re owed at least an explanation. But life isn’t fair. When people die, you don’t get closure. You just move on. So in that same way, move on.

2. Acknowledge your mistakes

No matter how good you have been as a partner, you may have done something that led to your breakup.

Perhaps you were too controlling. You constantly said hurtful things, unaware of the emotional trauma you were causing them. You didn’t mean to, but you made mistakes. It’s time to own up to them.

Rather than wallowing in self-pity, make an effort to be better. In time, you will be.

3. Cry it all out

People deal with breakups differently.

Some go out drinking with their friends to let go of the pain. Meanwhile, others try to keep it all to themselves and isolate themselves at home.

Regardless, it’s important to process the pain and cry it all out.

It’s not ideal to suppress your feelings and act as if nothing happened. Breakups are heartbreaking, and as such, they need to be dealt with accordingly.

Besides, the only way to heal from the heartbreak is to face it. You can’t move on from your ex if you continue avoiding your feelings.

4. Grieve for as long as you need

There’s no deadline for dealing with breakups.

Like grieving for a lost loved one, you need a lot of time to heal and move on.

Grief is our emotional response to loss. You can’t just put a timeline on when you should stop grieving. There’s no on and off switch for such emotions. So, deal with it as long as you need.

Time heals all wounds.

5. Be open to new love

It’s heartbreaking to see your relationship shatter into pieces.

You want to hold on to it, but the reality is it’s time to let go.

Go through all the stages of grief. Cry your hearts out and grieve as long as you need.

However, don’t dwell there forever.

Don’t hold on to what has already been lost. Focus on what’s next — finding a new partner. Someone better. Someone you truly deserve.

To do that, you need to open your heart again.

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Florence Williamson