Summer Flings Are Sizzling Hot, but They Fizzle Out Eventually

Florence Williamson
3 min readApr 24, 2023
Couple enjoying summer flings
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Summer loving had me a blast.

Summer loving happened so fast.

“Summer Nights,” Grease (1978)

The sun is out. The weather feels pleasant. Beaches look more alluring than usual. And the warm breeze is in full swing.

Those signs point to summer — a season many of us look forward to.

But apart from warmer temperatures, there’s another thing that’s sizzling during this popular season. What’s that, you ask? Hotter days call for summer flings.

You’ve probably heard of the term. And you’ve likely been in one before!

Summer flings have been depicted in countless movies, books, and TV shows. Some famous examples include Dirty Dancing, The Notebook, and Grease.

If you’re a single looking for some summer entaglement then the season is upon you. But as sexy as that sounds, summer flings unfortunately have expiration dates.

What Makes Summer Flings Irresistible?

Not everyone is looking for a long-term commitment. Or perhaps, you may be coming off of one, and just need to let loose.

As long as you’re two consenting, single adults who know what you’re getting into, then it’s fair game.

You might need a jump start, a revival, something to inspire you to make the most out of life and not take everything too seriously.

Summer love can do that. Here are other reasons people want to have summer flings:

1. Strings aren’t an option

Are you on the hunt for a non-commital arrangement? Perhaps a fiery fling is what you want (or need)!

Summer romances are desirable because of their light-hearted nature. You’re not required to wear your heart on your sleeve, and the other person isn’t obligated to be vulnerable to you either. You’re both aware of what comes with your arrangement and don’t demand more out of it.

2. Pressure need not apply

Since there are no strings attached to summer flings, the pressure to commit to someone is absent. All you need to do is just enjoy each other’s company while you can. There’s no guilt because you aren’t tied down to other parties.

Picture this: you’re all alone, wrapped up in each other’s arms without a care in the world.

3. The rush is too good

There’s a science to the addicting rush summer flings brings.

GIF by Grease Live on Giphy

Attraction drives the brain to hormones like norepinephrine and dopamine, which explains the giddiness. The more you spend time with your summer lover, the more you’ll look for that hit.

Another important point: sunshine is healthy! Numerous studies have shown connections between people’s serotonin levels and sunlight exposure. Combine that with the happy hormones mentioned above, and you’ve got yourself an irresistible arrangement!

All Good Things Come to an End

Summer flings are hot and fun, but they don’t tend to last beyond the season. To paraphrase a Drake lyric, they’re here for a good time — not a long time.

Since these flings don’t come with pressure, don’t come in with high expectations. You’re not obligated to share anything personal with each other, giving you no motivation to go beyond your current arrangement.

Even if summer romances aren’t serious, there’s always the risk of catching feelings. With all theintimacy that comes with them, it shouldn’t shock anyone that a person falls in love with their seasonal lover. And once that happens, the ending may be painful and ugly.

If you want to enjoy summer flings, you’ll just have to accept their fleeting nature. Enjoy them while they last to make the most out of the temporary setup. Your summer lover may not be the one, but at least you had fun!

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